Use heap_modify_tuple not SPI_modifytuple in pl/perl triggers.

Use heap_modify_tuple not SPI_modifytuple in pl/perl triggers.

The code here would need some change anyway given planned change in
SPI_modifytuple semantics, since this executes after we've exited the
SPI environment.  But really it's better to just use heap_modify_tuple.
The code's actually shorter this way, and this avoids depending on some
rather indirect reasoning about why the temporary arrays can't be overrun.
(I think the old code is safe, as long as Perl hashes can't contain
duplicate keys; but with this way we don't need that assumption, only
the assumption that SPI_fnumber doesn't return an out-of-range attnum.)

While at it, normalize use of SPI_fnumber: make error messages distinguish
no-such-column from can't-set-system-column, and remove test for deleted
column which is going to migrate into SPI_fnumber.